So, it's in your self-interest to bestow a gift or two on the lawyer or law student in your life. You yourself may be a lawyer or law student. That only enhances your ability to come up with exactly the right show of caring during this holiday season.
However, you might have a brain or heart freeze when it comes to altruism. Therefore, here are 5 recommendations.
"What Color Is Your Parachute." Since the mid 1970s, this has been the bullet-proof guide for landing the best work. Its unique insight is that those who are hired as employees, contractors or consultants aren't necessarily the most qualified. Instead they're the shrewdest at how to go about the self-marketing.
One proven tactic is to seek out opportunities which aren't advertised. You bet, cold call, only these days it's done electronically. Here you can order the book from Amazon and have it delivered directly to lawyers and law students who should have already developed a caveman hunter's mindset. That is, dinner depends entirely on them. Not the law school career center or outplacement firm.
Adele's "25." Extreme talent can lift even lawyers and law students out of their anxious sixth level of hell. Experiencing Adele's new album can break them open to a world beyond motions and career mobility. Here you can order it from Amazon and have it sent directly to the lucky recipient. Maybe have one delivered to you too.
Chamomile tea. Mindfulness or the practice of meditation has become sexy. However, it doesn't work if the lawyer or law student can't do it on a regular basis. Most can't or won't. That's the rub.
Often a good night's sleep or exercise can accomplish the same ends of taming the mind for increased focus and improved health.
Give a box of chamomile tea to up the odds that sleep will come. Once someone is sleeping soundly most nights there could be a game-changer in professional performance and personal self-regulation.
Instead of or along with that, you can provide a six-month gym membership.
Dale Carnegie Introductory Course or Coaching. The 1970s breakthrough research by Mark Granovetter proved that more professional opportunities come from "weak ties" or people we only know casually, than from those on our supposed gold-plated network.
Auto mechanic Joe likely has the inside scoop on brewing legal problems in Community X and who just lost their law-firm jobs in Manhattan or in compliance at a Hartford-based insurance company.
Lawyers can follow that up. To develop a cordial relationship with Joe, though, requires a natural ease with people. Cognitively locked-in legal eagles often lack that skill. It can be acquired through an introductory course at Dale Carnegie. Or coaching by a Dale Carnegie instructor such as Michael Francoeur (firstname.lastname@example.org).
Half hour of absolute listening. No one listens. So you will. For 30 minutes you will be totally silent, all-ears. Great burdens can vaporize. Brilliant marketing plans can be conjured up.
Last summer, a 72-year-old neighbor listened. He nodded his head twice. Since then my communications boutique has taken off.
And what gift to bestow on yourself? Unconditional self-love. Madonna sang about that. The Dalai Lama noticed Americans have a deficit in that area. And William Shakespeare recognized that the human race is a bunch of screw-ups but so? Along with his tragedies are compassionate comedies.