"I am 60 years old and just starting to grow up."
That's what the speaker at a 12-step meeting told the group in central Connecticut this evening. Finally, after a lifetime of drinking he had sobered up four years ago. It was in rehab that he realized that he had to tell his secret. That was that another man had molested him when he was a youth. He also had to admit his "part" in the event. And that was that he had been drunk at the time.
Throughout my years "in the rooms" I had heard similar confessionals by males. They were drunk. Or they were trusting. Or they were simply needy. Males seem to be more wounded than women who had been molested. That might be because in their value system homosexuality is verboten.
Let's hope the courts continue to come down hard on males who take sexual advantage of boys.