Sure there are some lawyers, practicing law or leveraging the JD in another field, who seem to be doing just fine. They include Ted Olson, David Boies, Mark Herrmann, Alex Rich and Joe Patrice. But, so many others struggle daily to keep centered emotionally and continue to find work.
The root problem may be simple: lack of social skills. Given that excelling academically was required to acquire a law degree, there was little incentive - or perhaps energy left over - for socialization. The irony is that high emotional intelligence seems correlated with the overall success of brandname lawyers. To apply the platitude: They are a joy to be around.
Lawyers, as well as law students, can begin their journey to mental well-being and more financial security if they develop pick up lines. Just like those hunting for love, they shouldn't leave home or the office without them.
The essence of an effective pick up line is that the focus is put on the other person. A tax consultant landed my business by asking me, while we were in line at the bank, how I was doing with my taxes. He did not enter my field of attention saying, "Hello, I'm Joe and I do taxes." That pick up line opened the coversation. I have been using his services since.
The best pick up lines immediately reach where the human being is at. If she is walking her dog in winter, you remark on the cute sweater. My dog's appears to be homemade so those who want my attention ask if knitted it. Works all the time.
Here are don'ts for pick up lines:
Not to mention negatives. No, the professional shelling out thousands during a child custody battle doesn't want to be informed mediation can be the way out. Compliment the children.
No aggressive moves. Timing is everything. It will be a while before you ask to go to lunch or for a bit of business from them.
Drop the gravitas. Sure they want you to be serious about work. But the great gravitas since the financial crash has become a public nuisance.
No long form communications. Less is more.