One of the most serious and that society doesn't tolerate is becoming a parent when ill-suited for the role. The way females can reverse that mistake is to become a drunk. Losing their children is guaranteed. I see that all the time in 12-step programs.
What I also see is some of those mothers don't seem to want to have a shot at regaining custody. At critical times in the review process, before they are threatened with permanent loss through adoption, they do exactly what they are supposed to not do: Get drunk. Eventually they show up at their home group in the 12-step program announcing they have lost their child.
And that's that. I would say that they got what they wanted: To reverse a mistake from the past. That's their right. A long-term acquaintance of mine had four children rapidly, became a drunk, lost custody to her husband, moved far away, sobered up, and never reached back into that life again. I did not judge her.
Of course, not all mothers who become ensnared in alcohol are playing that particular game. Those are the ones who should read the new book "Her Best-Kept Secret: Why Women Drink - And How They Can Regain Control." It's by journalist Gabrielle Glaser. From the get-go, she lets readers know she herself is not an alcoholic, which is atypical in that genre. She was probably smart enough to recognize that non-alcoholic status gave her an edge. Here you can order the book.
What Glaser chronicles, through research and anecdote, is the surge in excessive drinking by females, especially high-powered professionals. A recent example of that in the legal sector has been Judge Emily Dean. A comment on my post about her one-month suspension indicates she is already in recovery.
Dean is still the exception. The reality is that it's difficult for females to stop abusing alcohol and stay stopped. The stigma hovering over the drunk woman prevents admitting the disease and seeking treatment. In addition, their downshifting in a career because of boozing can be explained, to others as well as themselves, as needing to pay more attention to parenting. In addition, there are too many male enablers. Who wouldn't take up with a drunk woman?
We can anticipate hearing about more intoxication among females in the legal sector. Eventually, that won't even be a story which makes the media.