That's what American Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron tells Oprah in this interview. And lawyers are not immune - no matter how comprehensively you plan things out.
The world will probably label that "failure." For example, when Chodron's second husband dumped her, the standard interpretation would be: The marriage failed. But, once Chodron was strong enough to connect the dots she attributed that catastrophe to the start of her new path as a best-selling author.
In her latest book "Fail Fail Fast Fail Better," she discusses how failure is frequently the necessary platform for unique kinds of successes. What can prevent that, though, is if we are afraid of the pain. Instead of absorbing the experience and allowing it to be our "teacher," we turn on ourselves. Those who do that, of course, are the ones who give failure its bad reputation.
Chodron's message mirrors that of some parts of the tech world. In those, applicants for jobs or assignments won't be hired unless they have one or more failures on their resume.
I have an idea: Perhaps some of the pain of failure could be eased if society created rituals to celebrate it. That can reassure those throw off their game that the unknown could be far better than the knowns they have been clinging to.