Talk to any personnel recruiter, human resources manager, or therapist. And they will tell you straight: Losing a job is a major trauma. Income, professional identity, social networks, and status all collapse.
In America, we are our work.
The good news is that you can be your own Emergency Coach.
The pain you are feeling has to be managed before you can be strategic and downright opportunistic about your search for The Next.
The pain is concentrated in the thought processes associated with the ego. That is, the realities, illusions, memories, and fears which make you you. You can and must get control over that psychic territory.
Here is what you have to do immediately to put together what I call a "pain patch" for the mind.
Tell yourself you can't afford to care any more what "all the people" think. Actually, "they" really didn't matter before, either. You simply allowed them to matter because you had the mental space to let in additional pain. Now, you don't.
The only people who will matter currently are those in the job-search loop. With them, you better present your very best self.
After you are in your The Next, the nice takeaway you have from this ordeal is understanding that "they" are just noise in your head. Fortunately, you have developed a shut-off switch. Once there is no more noise, you will figure out whose perception you have to manage. That's where you will invest your branding efforts.
Don't just sit there. Sure, you may have severance. You may be receiving unemployment. You may even have a financial reserve. That is irrelevant.
Here is my article published in Odwyerpr.com how to create your interim branding. Yes, that is a key ingredient in the pain patch.
It's also the basis of your just-in-time elevator speech.
Believe (and surrender to that belief) that some kind of force is looking out for you. That entity you can call:
- Higher Power
- The Universe
- Mother Earth
- St Jude, Patron of Impossible Causes
- A loved one who has passed over (it could be canine or feline).
It is exactly that kind of mindset which, since the 1930s, has helped drunks in Alcoholics Anonymous sober up and stay sober. Is there any reality to it? That's not a smart question.
What's smart is turning over this crisis to a power greater than yourself. The process can occur within the framework of prayer, meditation, or just a mantra such as "I can't, It Can, I will Let It."
Show caring to someone else. The pain pressure is reduced when attention is shifted from the self to another's pain. That's why patients in hospitals, hospices, and assisted living who help others thrive. Here is my short short story on that phenomenon.
Very soon, you will be enthusiastic about starting over.
What you have to be on the alert for is not being overtaken by The Four Monsters of the Mind: Overthinking, self-criticism, loss of confidence, and risk-aversion. They prowl the earth searching for the vulnerable.
Here's my recent book, free to download, on how to outsmart every one of them.
Will you reach The Next on your own?
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