"The pattern of losing can be broken, but not without a serious shift in mentality and focus ... But the smallest shift can have a seismic impact. With a few small perspective changes ..." - From Chapter 3 "Break The Pattern of Losing," in Scott Hamilton's 2018 book FINISH FIRST. Here it can be ordered from Amazon, where it ranks 3,954.
There are almost an infinite number of reasons why winners become losers.
According to Hamilton, Tiger Woods couldn't get his game back because he couldn't forgive himself for the reputational mess he had triggered.
What I am observing in my coaching and interviewing those over-40 is this: Age bias throws them for a loop. It's as if they are jinxed.
Sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly, they become convinced that their winning days are behind them. And that mindset shapes everything in their present. So, yes, they become losers.
The inner demons sustaining that pattern of losing are four:
- Loss of confidence
- Risk aversion.
The very good news is that, as Hamilton documents in his book over and over again, even mini changes in perspective can have major impacts. There's then the beginning of an upward trajectory.
At age 70, a disbarred lawyer I coached launched a new career in scripting documentaries. His demons fled when, unlike Woods, he could forgive himself. That kicked in after a very gradual understanding of why he had done the things he had. Eventually, the past, including a stay in prison, went poof.
In contrast, there are plenty of aging professionals who can't seem to emerge from their self-defeating looping. Those range from politico Hillary Clinton to head of Point72 hedge fund Steve Cohen. Both had suffered severe professional setbacks late in their careers.
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