Wanting revenge, they explain, destroys us, not those who supposedly had done us wrong. William Shakespeare showcases the reality in his classic drama "Hamlet."
Well, for most human beings, that message falls on deaf ears.
Instead we become increasingly consumed with fantasies about how to get even. Unfortunately, we might carry those out. And we self-righteously position and package all that as our form of DIY justice.
Good News: There's an alternative. We can just leave the revenge to nature.
Science shows that those hostile folks who supposedly inflicted such harm on us are sitting ducks for heart attacks.
In the book "The Heart Mind Connection," medical doctors Windsor Ting and Gregory Fricchione state:
" ... behavior that is most likely to contribute to heart disease is hostility ... Some researchers refer to patients with cynical hostility ... as Type D or distress personality."
Experience frequently confirms this scientific finding.
In graduate school, one professor gleefully unleashed his hostility as protection of academic excellence. His signature was blocking Master degree students at that university from being admitted to the doctoral program. They wound up having to apply elsewhere for Ph.D. studies. A number of my Master classmates wound up in that pickle.
No one was surprised when that professor had a fatal heart attack at a relatively young age. His genetic background was for longevity.
What can accelerate the "justice" nature will deliver is that, as Ting and Fricchione point out, hostile people tend to drink too much.
Of course, as the recent joint ABA/Hazelden Betty Ford study found, lawyers tend to be especially vulnerable to substance abuse. When I was on my way to law school, my mentor, whose father was a prominent estates lawyer, warned me about how much boozing goes on. He knew that I had been in a 12-step program for several years.
It should be a relief to those consumed with revenge that they can hand over that job to nature. The new fantasy can be that of our nemesis holding his or her chest and keeling over. And we only need to entertain that once to be able to let that hatred go.
Get a second opinion about your marketing and advocacy communications. No pressure. No charge. Please contact Jane Genova, email@example.com or @genova_jane.