,Lawyers get off the Metro North commuter train from Darien, Connecticut to Manhattan.
They feel that they can't do this 14-hour day, not this day. Yet, they don't want to be back in the tony town of Darien where you are never good enough. And your children want want want.
They feel squeezed. Between a rock and a hard place. The only option seems to be to jump in front of a subway car.
Then they spot in the Grand Central Terminal the sign about listening. It's held up by a volunteer with the Urban Confessional Project. The initiative was started by Ben Mathes. Heck, why not, they think. Yeah, talk to someone who will listen. Who listens in Darien? Isn't it all about strutting there?
They phone their law office that they are running late. With tears running down their face, they tell the volunteer what a joyless life they are leading. They hate the values of Darien. They hate the values of the law firm. Yes, they have come to hate themselves.
The volunteer just listens. As in 12 step programs no advice is given. Lawyers feel a burden has been lifted. It likely has been. From our days in the college dorm we know how powerful a confidential talk with a tight-lipped friend could be. Often, because it creates connection not paid relationship, it can be more effective, quicker than therapy.
So, lawyers if you spot an Urban Confessional Project volunteer on your way to work, invest the time to reach out and tell your troubles.